Mediators

A mediator is a person who is specially trained to help people resolve conflict. Unlike a judge, a mediator doesn't impose solutions on people, but helps them to find their own solutions to their problems.

Some mediators, but not all, are also lawyers. Whether or not the mediator in a family law case is a lawyer, they should have special training about family dynamics and family law issues. Before hiring a mediator, ask about their training and qualifications.

Note that mediators are supposed to be neutral and can't provide legal advice, even if they're also a lawyer.

Private mediators charge for their services. But if you can resolve your issues using mediation, it's generally much less expensive than going to court. Family justice counsellors offer free mediation services to people with low incomes in certain cases.

There is another free mediation program available at certain court registries. If you or the other party don't have a lawyer, and your file is in one of these courts:

  • Supreme Court in New Westminster or Vancouver, or
  • Provincial Court in Vancouver or an interior region

you can ask the judge to refer you to free mediation. Ask at your Judicial Case Conference (Supreme Court) or Family Management Conference (Provincial Court).

Once referred by the judge, you will then fill out a form at the Registry. The mediator will then connect with the parties to set up a mediation.  

How do I find a mediator

You can find mediators in several places:

Can I make my spouse attend mediation?

In most cases, mediation is voluntary. That is, both you and the other party have to agree to participate.

If you've started a case in Supreme Court, you can take steps to require your spouse to attend a mediation session. You do this by serving your spouse with a document called a Notice to Mediate. See Making mediation happen in a family law case in Supreme Court and Serve Supreme Court documents (for how to serve the document).

For more information on what mediators do, see the Attorney General's Family Justice page on mediators.